For all of those who believe in love at first sight or fairy tail love stories, you would hate the idea of love as a logical decision. If these people can get past the first thought of disagreement with the statement, it may start to make sense. To think of finding someone that you not only have feelings for but they also logically fits into your life and the type of life style you live can make marriage and any relationship much easier. With this type of logic, it could help to fix the horrific divorce rate that has taken over marriage lately.
The example of this is all of the online dating sites. The match.com's of the world have changed dating forever and have tried to make a science of selecting who should be coupled together. After answering hundreds of questions about your own like and dislikes, and what morals you need from your partner and which are not necessarily needed, the matching begins. These questions are all calculated and matched with others who have taken the test and you are given "matches" that they think you will get along with. This method has seemed to worked with the match.com fact of "1 of 4 new relationship starts online". If these relationships are starting and working then maybe love can be broken down to a science.
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Week 7 Blog Reviews
Amara:
9/28
I enjoyed reading your post on men and women communication. Your story of how you and your husband experienced communication problem just as Tannen described and you now understand why his "silent attention" is still listening. The one part that I can say needs improvement is that I didn't not get to know much about the article other than the exact quote that answered your communication issues.
9/30
The post on monogamous humans was a very good explanation of the article and I feel that you hit on the all the important issues that were discussed. The only thing I could find is that at a point it got a little repetitive and the same things were being said for a second time.
Hilary:
9/28
Your post on communication between men and women was well written and put together very well. I like how you started with some back round information on your relationships and how the article has affected you and your partners communication. I feel like your post could have had more quotes and given a little more in site to what the author was thinking.
9/30
Your post on "Our Cheating Hearts" was very described and well organized. I feel that you got a lot of points across and anyone reading this post would know what it was about. The only part that I would change is there may be to much information for it to be an overview of the article. There are parts where some of the information is not necessarily needed.
9/28
I enjoyed reading your post on men and women communication. Your story of how you and your husband experienced communication problem just as Tannen described and you now understand why his "silent attention" is still listening. The one part that I can say needs improvement is that I didn't not get to know much about the article other than the exact quote that answered your communication issues.
9/30
The post on monogamous humans was a very good explanation of the article and I feel that you hit on the all the important issues that were discussed. The only thing I could find is that at a point it got a little repetitive and the same things were being said for a second time.
Hilary:
9/28
Your post on communication between men and women was well written and put together very well. I like how you started with some back round information on your relationships and how the article has affected you and your partners communication. I feel like your post could have had more quotes and given a little more in site to what the author was thinking.
9/30
Your post on "Our Cheating Hearts" was very described and well organized. I feel that you got a lot of points across and anyone reading this post would know what it was about. The only part that I would change is there may be to much information for it to be an overview of the article. There are parts where some of the information is not necessarily needed.
Friday, October 1, 2010
Heterosexual Monogamous
I believe that in America today it is important to have monogamous relationships to keep the idea of a family in tact. With how common divorce has become and how public figures are always said to be either cheating on their spouse or leaving their current marriage for a newer fresher one. Almost everyone has a friend that had their parents go through a divorce and many divorces are cause by infidelity. In the reading Wright talks about how difficult completely monogamous relations have become and has many thought on why women and men cheat.
The quote that I feel described this article is "Much of what I discovered about human mating is not nice". The dating world is a very tough, heart breaking place where it can be hard enough to find your "perfect mate" so complicating it with fidelity and jealousy very much makes in "not nice". So when or if someone does find their perfect mate and they try to start a life and a family, to have to deal with the commonality of infidelity and divorce makes the little arguments a lot worse and the bad arguments much worse than they used to be seen.
The quote that I feel described this article is "Much of what I discovered about human mating is not nice". The dating world is a very tough, heart breaking place where it can be hard enough to find your "perfect mate" so complicating it with fidelity and jealousy very much makes in "not nice". So when or if someone does find their perfect mate and they try to start a life and a family, to have to deal with the commonality of infidelity and divorce makes the little arguments a lot worse and the bad arguments much worse than they used to be seen.
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Battle of the Sexes
I think that the paper by Deborah Tannen was a very interesting perspective on how men/women arguments are seen by a woman. I do agree with most everything she said when it came to what women argue about and how different it is than what men will argue about. Tannen says "complaints from women about their husbands most often focused not on tangible inequities.....instead, they focused on communication." "He doesn't listen to me" and "He doesn't talk to me" are quotes that I feel are associated with what women think of their husbands. Rather that men thinking what she "Doesn't do for me" is what they feel they should argue about. I do not think that one is "better" or "worse" than the other, just different ways of thinking.
I think that most people have had someone of the opposite sex to argue with and know what their opinion is and how it was affects them and the way they go about bringing up or talking about certain sensitive topics. The way couples talk about these subjects and how certain topics maybe should not even be brought up is a very important part of being in a marriage of any time of relationship.
I think that most people have had someone of the opposite sex to argue with and know what their opinion is and how it was affects them and the way they go about bringing up or talking about certain sensitive topics. The way couples talk about these subjects and how certain topics maybe should not even be brought up is a very important part of being in a marriage of any time of relationship.
Week 6 Blog Reviews
Amara: I enjoyed looking around your blog and getting to know you from your about me section. I think that Erin Brockovich is a very good choice for the "Real Wild Woman" because of the way she portrays herself to the viewers. She goes around and uses her sexuality to convince men to agree with her and help her get ahead in her job. A part that I do not agree with is where you says that she is nurturing and that is a standard attribute of womanhood. I think that she does not follow the role of nurturing by the way she presents herself more than half of her daily life.
The effect of technology on family has been just as big as capitalism and has changed almost everything in every day life. I feel that your example of families not communicating effectively or distancing themselves from each other is a very real and scary thing that can happen and is happening today. I also agree that social network sites have changed ways to communicate and keep up with people without interacting or ever seeing them.
Hilary: I like how your blog is set up and easy to read and very colorful. I have never seen the movie Heartbreakers so do not know how the women are portrayed but the way you describe them it does seem to fit the article very well. Your quotes fit what you were trying to portray very well and gave a good incite to what you are trying to portray.
I think your article about "Capitalism and Gay Identity" was well written but could have been longer with more ideas. I did like your point about how adopting can solve the issues of not having enough children to fill jobs and keep the economy going because more people are able to express the homosexuality. I think that this is a difficult topic to write about and I feel you went about it very well.
The effect of technology on family has been just as big as capitalism and has changed almost everything in every day life. I feel that your example of families not communicating effectively or distancing themselves from each other is a very real and scary thing that can happen and is happening today. I also agree that social network sites have changed ways to communicate and keep up with people without interacting or ever seeing them.
Hilary: I like how your blog is set up and easy to read and very colorful. I have never seen the movie Heartbreakers so do not know how the women are portrayed but the way you describe them it does seem to fit the article very well. Your quotes fit what you were trying to portray very well and gave a good incite to what you are trying to portray.
I think your article about "Capitalism and Gay Identity" was well written but could have been longer with more ideas. I did like your point about how adopting can solve the issues of not having enough children to fill jobs and keep the economy going because more people are able to express the homosexuality. I think that this is a difficult topic to write about and I feel you went about it very well.
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Real Wild Women
When I read the chapter about Real Wild Women/Wild Real Men the first movie/TV show to come to my mind was the Real Housewives of OC/Atlanta/New Jersey or any other city that hosts the show. The show consists of usually five or six women who are "friends" and their families. You get to watch them go through out their daily lives with all its ups and downs. The show is full of drama and arguments that involves everything from family issues to who was or was not invited to their weekly parties. This show and shows like these has, in my opinion, changed the way people watch television forever with the unreal "reality" storylines. I feel that the show does put a positive light on women is some aspects, but at the same time the show is seen as a joke so it is not always a positive. The question that I think every time I have seen the show is "is any press, good press?". Most of the women on the show are seen as dumb or fake which is not good "press" for women, but other women on these shows have charities that they are able to raise money for through the shows which is a very good thing.
The quote that stood out from the reading was "the celebration of individual freedom and enterprise has simultaneously permitted a history of colonialist exploitation." When I am watch a movie or a TV show I rarely think of what ramifications could come from someone taking this movie to seriously. I agree that freedom of speech is very important but it can be dangerous if not handled well.
The quote that stood out from the reading was "the celebration of individual freedom and enterprise has simultaneously permitted a history of colonialist exploitation." When I am watch a movie or a TV show I rarely think of what ramifications could come from someone taking this movie to seriously. I agree that freedom of speech is very important but it can be dangerous if not handled well.
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Week 4 Blog Reviews
Amber- I like the painting you picked it is very colorful with a lot of stuff going on around the main part of the picture. I like that you see a painting at you first reaction is to sing, I think that says a lot about the kind of person you are and lets the readers see how you are. I like your description of the painting, it points out just about every important part that I saw. I like the mother nature reference because that is exactly was I thought when I first looked at the painting.
April- The picture you chose is a very interesting one because I think there are many different ways to interpret it. I think that your objective description is one of the best I read. You were able to step back and describe only what you saw and not what you thought very well. I liked your interpretation of the picture to see what stood out to you because is was not what stood out to me. I always like to hear someones opinion when it is different than mine to see what they saw.
Mary- The painting Frida and the Casarean Operation is one of the strangest that I have seen from Frida Kahlo. I think you did a great job describing this painting because of how much is going on and how many different way it can be interpreted. I like how your view of the painting was affected by the sad story of Frida Kahlo and how it brought a personal experience to you mind. I think that art is best when it makes you think and feel.
April- The picture you chose is a very interesting one because I think there are many different ways to interpret it. I think that your objective description is one of the best I read. You were able to step back and describe only what you saw and not what you thought very well. I liked your interpretation of the picture to see what stood out to you because is was not what stood out to me. I always like to hear someones opinion when it is different than mine to see what they saw.
Mary- The painting Frida and the Casarean Operation is one of the strangest that I have seen from Frida Kahlo. I think you did a great job describing this painting because of how much is going on and how many different way it can be interpreted. I like how your view of the painting was affected by the sad story of Frida Kahlo and how it brought a personal experience to you mind. I think that art is best when it makes you think and feel.
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