I think that the paper by Deborah Tannen was a very interesting perspective on how men/women arguments are seen by a woman. I do agree with most everything she said when it came to what women argue about and how different it is than what men will argue about. Tannen says "complaints from women about their husbands most often focused not on tangible inequities.....instead, they focused on communication." "He doesn't listen to me" and "He doesn't talk to me" are quotes that I feel are associated with what women think of their husbands. Rather that men thinking what she "Doesn't do for me" is what they feel they should argue about. I do not think that one is "better" or "worse" than the other, just different ways of thinking.
I think that most people have had someone of the opposite sex to argue with and know what their opinion is and how it was affects them and the way they go about bringing up or talking about certain sensitive topics. The way couples talk about these subjects and how certain topics maybe should not even be brought up is a very important part of being in a marriage of any time of relationship.
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